You’re Not A Certified Therapist (And Why Your Friends Should Stop Treating You As One).

Happy Sunday!

I know I haven’t posted in a few weeks, but now that midterms are officially over I can get back to a somewhat routine of posting.

You know those friends you can always talk to if you’re upset/having a rough day? The one you can tell your deepest secrets to, and they’ll keep it. The one who always listens, and doesn’t expect anything in return. You all have that friend, or in my case, you are that friend.

And over the course of this year, I’ve learned that it can be hard to be that friend. It can be hard to be the one who always listens and cares, and who expects nothing in return. But I am writing here to tell you that it is okay to say no, that it is okay to not want to listen, to focus on yourself for a little bit. It does not make you a bad friend, it just makes you a human being who needs some time to their self.

I know this because I am that friend, and I am slowly learning that life doesn’t always have to be about everyone else, it is also about yourself. Self-care is one of the most important things in the world, and you will feel so much better if you take some time to do it. And if people don’t accept that? It’s not your fault, it’s theirs for not realizing how amazing of a person you are.

(UPDATE) To the people who have these types of friends, it does NOT mean we don’t want to help, believe me that’s all we want to do, but sometimes we need a little break to focus on ourselves. It doesn’t mean we won’t be there for you if you need it, we will listen, but sometimes we need you to listen to us too.

Have a great Sunday!
xxoo

People Who Are On The Same Page

Happy Friday!

The other day, I had an awesome conversation with a friend about life, emotions, blogging (!), and I realized a few things. 

Humans are not just one thing, meaning that we aren’t always happy, or calm, or kind. We express so many emotions on a daily basis, and sometimes those emotions surprise us in their intensity, and how other react to them. For example, if a person is usually pretty friendly and happy, but one day they aren’t, it can alter their interactions with people. People always think that if a person is usually happy, they will almost always remain that day. But life can’t be lived one way, there are so many ideas and emotions that make up an individual, and just because someone sees how you are on the outside, it doesn’t mean that you feel the same way inside. We’re more complex than we think we actually are.

My friend also has a fantastic blog, and I hope his posts interest and inspire you like they do me!

http://oldsoulnewworld.weebly.com/

So, what do you think about humanity, and the emotions we express, let me know!

Have a fantastic Friday!

xxoo

Chapter 560(?): How Are You?

Happy Thursday!

I’m guessing on my chapter number because I’ve been away, so feel free to correct me.

I just wanted to say hello and see what everyone is up to these days!

Me, it’s almost time for final exams, and I’m beginning to feel the pressure. But I’ll be working in NYC this summer, so I’m looking forward to that. Besides those things, it’s almost summer, which means a lovely amount of warm weather!

BUT, the real question is…how are YOU today? Tell me one awesome or good things that happened, or maybe a not-so-good thing. I’d love to hear how you are.

Have an awesome day!

xxoo

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Chapters 320, 321, 322, 323, 324, 325 & 326: Listen

Happy Friday!

Like I said in my last note, I’ve been sick for the past few days, and haven’t been able to blog. I’m sorry I haven’t been around, but I’m glad to say I’m feeling much better!

I was in New York City recently, and a man helped me to hail said something to me that I found very inspiring. He said, “The more you listen, the better your life will be”. And he’s right! Listening is a huge part of any relationship, and the more people listen to each other, the stronger the relationship will be. Listening is important in any relationship, new or old. Listening allows you to gain new insight into someone’s personal life, and it’s a way for you to share personal thoughts and feelings with others.

Listening means paying attention to what others are saying, and if you pay attention, you could garner valuable information. Advice about cleaning, life, relationships, jobs, you name it. There will always be someone who knows something new, and is willing to share it with you.

Listening doesn’t just mean when you are face-to-face. It can take place through social media, texting, Skyping, calling. Any way to communicate helps. Communication is key for listening, because it can help move the conversation along, and help the relationship grow!

Listening is also a two-way thing. You can’t be the only one listening, the other person (or other people) have to listen too! That’s one of the most important parts of a relationship, knowing that the other person (or people) are listening to what you have to say, and responding with their opinions and ideas!

Listening can help in many aspects of your life, so why not start today!

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Have an amazing weekend! xxoo