A Watched Pot Never Boils, But What Happens When You Boil Over?

Happy Friday!

My name is Samantha, and I’ve lost my motivation. And I need your help.

Now that I’ve gotten that off of my chest, let me explain.

This hasn’t been a recent thing, it’s been gradually happening for months, even years. It all began when I started writing this blog almost three years ago.

When I started this blog, I did it so I could vent about stuff I was experiencing, to write about things that I was feeling. And I kept doing that for awhile, just writing about my experiences and my feelings. And then, I thought that if I kept writing, I could become on of those famous bloggers, the ones you hear about in the news. Obviously that didn’t pan out, but I kept trying and writing, trying to find my place (any place) in the world.

But then a few months ago, I realized that I wasn’t able to do that anymore. Sure, I was still having experiences, and dealing with feelings, but between two years ago and now, I’ve grown up. And I began to feel like what I was writing about wasn’t worth it, both for you to read, and for me to write about. But then I went on the biggest adventure of my life, and I thought things would suddenly click into place.

As some of you know, for the past four months, I was studying abroad in Florence, Italy. And make no mistake, it was one of the best experiences of my life, and I have so many feelings about the experiences I had. I got to travel to places I’d only dreamed about, Going abroad was something I had dreamed about for years; it was something that I was looking forward to since I entered college. And then it happened, and then, as of last Saturday, it was over. And my dream ended.

So now what?

There’s a phrase “a watched pot never boils”. In the case of being abroad, the pot symbolizes my time abroad, and how I tried to disconnect from “watching” it, and to simply experience it. But now, I’ve returned home, and the pot has boiled over so to speak.

Again, so now what?

Do I simply put another pot of water on the stove? Or do I scrape the burned pot clean? Or do I just give up cooking entirely?

These type of questions have been rattling around in my head for days, and even as I write this, I’m still lost on what to do.

But here’s what I do know.

I know I want to keep writing. I have no idea about what I want to keep writing about, so ideas/topics are appreciated.

I’d like for you all to keep reading. If you’ve skipped most of what I’ve written so far, that’s fine, but even if you read a word of what I’ve wrote, I’m happy.

I want to hear from you. And I want you to hear from me too. This is the most important thing. Without communication, there is no inspiration (and yes, I did just make that up). I am making a promise that with each comment, like, or emoji I receive, you’ll receive one back from me. And if I don’t hold up my end of the bargain, call me out on it. I dare you to.

And with those three things, I eagerly await your feedback. And maybe I’ll start off this new change with the purchase of a new pot, yet to be touched by water.


16 thoughts on “A Watched Pot Never Boils, But What Happens When You Boil Over?

  1. Ah, I totally hear you on this one. It’s like a mixed case of writer’s block and burnout (writer’s burnout, perhaps?). I’ve recently run up against this, and I hear you on EVERYTHING–making a blog to express yourself/share your feelings and thoughts with others, traveling the world for epic adventures and then coming back, not knowing quite what to do. You’ll figure out the next step; the trick is to not focus “too hard.” (I know, I’m so guilty of this because I’m always GO GO GO!) Life really IS always working out in our favor. It’s just a matter of going with the flow (and sometimes that involves “tear flow” and expressing challenging emotions/fears). You’ll get there, don’t worry. We’ll “figure out” our next moves together!

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    1. Haha I like the term of “writers burnout”! You may see me use that term often in the near future! And I think you and I are having similar writing problems, but nothing that good conversation and coffee (or tea) can’t fix! And you’ll arrive where you need to be too, don’t you worry!


  2. I can totally relate, I got so intimidated by my blog, at one point that I avoided it completely. My blog is about anything and everything, and yet I felt as if there was nothing left to write about. In fact, the little poem I posted this evening, is the first thing I have shared since January! The one thing I have learned from that is that I have to keep writing, even if I’m the only one reading it. I am going to start posting one photo per week, and writing something about it. It might be a poem, a short story, a personal anecdote, a descriptive paragraph, a recipe, or even just a caption. Whatever it is I will try to stick to it. I Hope this helps you in some small way. I’m looking forward to seeing what that watched pot, of yours ‘ve comes! šŸ™‚

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  3. laurie27wsmith

    Been there done that, young miss, pot’s boiling over everywhere. So I turned the stove off and walked away. I took a mental health break of about 3 months and only answered a few select emails. I put up a ‘see you later’ post, turned off all my contacts on WordPress and sorted my self out. I know it sounds dramatic but whatever the reason, be it a sense of ho hum, washed out, depressed, pissed off or whatever we need to step back and take a long look. I opted out of writing my novels and took more interest in photography, that brought me back to blogging again. I think it’s all about setting new goals, growing, evolving, shedding the old skin. Whatever you do you’ll be fine doing it.

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    1. Hi! Thank you so much for sharing, it honestly made me feel a lot better to know I wasn’t the only one out there who had to step away for awhile and re-connect with oneself. And I’m definitely looking forward to what’s coming next.

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      1. laurie27wsmith

        You’re welcome. I felt your pain when I started reading. it’s too easy to get caught up in the socialising online, you feel that you HAVE to keep doing it. Whatever comes next for you, good luck.


  4. The reason I started reading your blog was the “slice of life” posts that you gave. Because I like real-life stories, those interested me, even if they weren’t as interesting to others or easy for you to write.

    I liked your pot analogy throughout this post, and you might, in a future post, consider reflecting on watching versus doing.

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    1. Thanks for the feedback! And your suggestion made me laugh a little, because my mom is always telling me that “saying you’ll do it and doing it are two different things.” So expect a post soon on the subject!


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