You’re Not A Certified Therapist (And Why Your Friends Should Stop Treating You As One).

Happy Sunday!

I know I haven’t posted in a few weeks, but now that midterms are officially over I can get back to a somewhat routine of posting.

You know those friends you can always talk to if you’re upset/having a rough day? The one you can tell your deepest secrets to, and they’ll keep it. The one who always listens, and doesn’t expect anything in return. You all have that friend, or in my case, you are that friend.

And over the course of this year, I’ve learned that it can be hard to be that friend. It can be hard to be the one who always listens and cares, and who expects nothing in return. But I am writing here to tell you that it is okay to say no, that it is okay to not want to listen, to focus on yourself for a little bit. It does not make you a bad friend, it just makes you a human being who needs some time to their self.

I know this because I am that friend, and I am slowly learning that life doesn’t always have to be about everyone else, it is also about yourself. Self-care is one of the most important things in the world, and you will feel so much better if you take some time to do it. And if people don’t accept that? It’s not your fault, it’s theirs for not realizing how amazing of a person you are.

(UPDATE) To the people who have these types of friends, it does NOT mean we don’t want to help, believe me that’s all we want to do, but sometimes we need a little break to focus on ourselves. It doesn’t mean we won’t be there for you if you need it, we will listen, but sometimes we need you to listen to us too.

Have a great Sunday!
xxoo

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14 thoughts on “You’re Not A Certified Therapist (And Why Your Friends Should Stop Treating You As One).

  1. Well said! I agree, we do have to sometimes sacrifice a little bit and try and be the best of friends when they need us but there are times that we have to take care of us too, because as nice as it is to help people, we can’t forget about ourselves.

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  2. Having a psych degree, and empathic abilities… I AM that friend. I have learnt to cut my circle down to only a select few people BC it can become tiring being that person, and I carve out time each week (aim for a few min a day,but that’s not always the case) for me to unplug and detach from the world. 🙂

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  3. I have a large degree of empathy, but I am rarely used as a sounding board for people’s drama, as I tend to be oblivious to it. However, if people confide in me, their deep secrets are completely safe.

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